18 Questions to Ask Yourself

So every once in while, you might get the feeling that you’re stuck in a rut, monotony, a cycle of doom, or whatever else you might call it. It’s important to really check in with yourself, mentally and emotionally, so that you can figure out a way to move forward in life. If you’re finding it a bit difficult to get the ball rolling, it’s helpful to have a list of questions to ask yourself, to get to know yourself, your needs, your desires, a little better.

Here are 18 questions that I often consider whenever I’m going through one of those “I’m stuck, poor me” moods!

Questions to ask yourself

  1. Do I enjoy my daily activities?ย 
  2. Do I like my current job?
  3. Do I prefer to work for a company, or do I want to run my own business?
  4. If I had to listen to my friends speak frankly about me, would I like what they have to say about me?
  5. What are my top 3 positive personality traits?
  6. What are my top 3 negative personality traits?
  7. What am I insecure about?
  8. Do I feel energized after spending time with the people who are around me the most? Or do I usually feel drained?
  9. Do I feel confident when talking to someone new about my work, career, accomplishments, etc.?
  10. Do I prefer to have a structured schedule, or to just go with the flow?ย 
  11. Do I prefer being indoors, or being outdoors?
  12. Do I like working on my own? Or do I prefer to work in a team?
  13. Do I feel like I can express myself as freely as I’d like to?
  14. Is there a certain way I typically handle conflict with other people? Does it actually help, or often make things worse?
  15. Do I have any habits I want to quit?
  16. Do I feel comfortable at home?
  17. Do I tend to hold onto things for a long time “just in case”, or do I let go of things I have no need for?
  18. When I see someone doing something I’ve wanted to do, do I feel genuinely happy for them? Or do I feel jealous?

There are so many more questions I sometimes ask myself, but we’re not going to turn this post into a whole novel. Ha ha. What are some questions you consider when you’re feeling like it’s time for a change in your life? Let me know! ๐Ÿ’–

Impromptu Break

For the past month or so, I haven’t posted anything on my blog. And I barely posted and interacted on social media in general. For some reason, I just felt… blocked. Each time I tried to post something, it just didn’t feel right. I know what you might be thinking, and trust me, I’ve thought it too: “Just do it!” Right? But I’m big on energy. The energy didn’t feel right. And so, to preserve my own energy, I decided to just take a break from the online world.

It was a much needed transition from 2020 into 2021.

Often, we act like things will automatically change when the year changes, or when the month changes, or when the season changes. And that’s not truly the case, which is why new year’s resolutions often fail. Small, gradual lifestyle changes are much more likely to stick. And these lead to greater, more profound changes that will really make a nice impact on your life. This year, instead of coming up with resolutions that I know I won’t stick to, I’ve been thinking about what I want to experience and how I want to impact people. And the little changes I can implement here and there to help me reach those goals.

A few things I will do my best to commit to are…

Consistency. This one is difficult, as a full-time employee and single mother. Getting anything else done, besides working for my regular paycheck and taking care of my little one, is a struggle more often than not. My number one priority is my son, and I don’t want to take away from quality time with him during the very important toddler years. He’s learning and growing so much everyday! Lately, we have been working on ways to keep him happily occupied while I take care of other tasks.

New Content. When I first started this blog, it was really just a place where I’d upload travel pics, random thoughts, poems, and even recipes. I ended up deciding to stick with mainly poetry and travel pics. But I would like to try expanding my blog and test out a wider range of topics. Feedback is always appreciated so please let me know what you like and what you want to see more of!

Interaction. In the past few months, I’ve come to learn that the blogging world mostly consists of bloggers encouraging, uplifting and supporting each other! I love the community energy and will do my best to engage more. ๐Ÿ’—

Confidence. I’ve been doing self-healing work, acknowledging my shadows, and letting go of the need for perfection. Throughout my life, I’ve dealt with bouts of low self-esteem and perfectionism (a terrible combo). So I aim to just flow more freely and openly going forward. One baby step at a time though ๐Ÿ˜…

Anyway…

That’s an update on where I’ve been. Not missing in action, just working on my energy. I love you all and can’t wait to share positive vibes!

If you’ve got any tips or advice for any of my commitments, or any feedback in general, I’m all ears!

I Wonder

What does it feel like

To be in your shoes?

I wonder

As I sit here sulking

Soaking in the madness of my life

I wonder if it’s better where you are

Do you, too, look up at the stars

And wonder if they’re brighter

To someone worlds apart?

Dear Honey

I set my bowl of honey
With hopes youโ€™d fly in
I poured it all on me
Let it cover my skin
I prayed for your loving
I prayed for your sin
I hoped you would touch me
And that weโ€™d begin

I waited and waited
Let it drip to the floor
I pictured you craving
Consumption and more
I felt what itโ€™d feel like
If you came through that door
Got lost in my thoughts
โ€˜Til all the honey was poured

5 ways to find peace within

There are some things in this lifetime that I have been through… and looking back, I sometimes wonder just how exactly did I get through those tough times? It seems that sometimes I barely made it, hanging by a thread. And now I just feel so good about my life, in general!

So how can we all start to feel good about ourselves and our lives everyday, and get through all the tough times? They’re inevitable, so might as well be prepared with some tools to help turn the page into a better part of the chapter.

1. Journal. I know it’s been said to do this in just about every self help article and book. But writing down what you feel, what you are facing, what you are trying to do, etc. really helps you put things into perspective. Not only will it help you really assess the gravity of your situation, but it may also lead you to feel gratitude for the things that are going right.

2. Practice Gratitude. This is going to sometimes be the most difficult thing to do when it feels like your whole world is broken, but trust me, it will help! You can start with the basics: I am grateful to be alive. I am grateful for the food I am about eat. Then move on to bigger, more complex things. I am grateful for my family’s support. I am grateful to have a job. And so on and so forth.

3. Groom Yourself. Yup. Groom yourself. Oftentimes, when I’m feeling down or overwhelmed, I somewhat let myself go without even realizing it. It’s super easy for this to happen as a mother to a toddler. Then suddenly I realize I look less than spectacular, so I finally pluck my eyebrows, trim my hair, polish my nails and start to feel uplifted instantly!

4. Get Outside. Go somewhere, outside! It could be as simple as sitting on a bench at the nearby park, or getting all the way to the beach for some ocean vibes. Do this whenever possible. It will stimulate your senses, to reinvigorate you. You’ll feel clearer, refreshed.

5. Clean Up Your Space. There’s nothing that can weigh me down more on a daily basis than a cluttered living or working space. I try to at least keep everything clean. Tidy and organized is another story. However, when I do finally “reset” things and put everything in its proper place and reorganize, I feel much more clearheaded and ready to take on any task at hand.

Photo taken at Satellite Beach

31 Random Things I Love ๐Ÿ’–

1. When my baby giggles and then squeezes me tightly. ๐Ÿ‘ถ๐Ÿป

2. Actually understanding something in a new language I’m learning. ๐Ÿ“™

3. When someone understands exactly what I’m saying even though I’m overcomplicating what I’m trying to say. ๐Ÿ™Œ

4. Finding a new song that expresses exactly what someone makes me feel. ๐Ÿ’ž

5. Being able to share that song with that someone. ๐ŸŽถ

6. Good night calls and good morning texts. ๐Ÿ“ฑ

7. Making a dessert for people I love and watching the joy on their face as they eat it. ๐Ÿฐ

8. The way my eyebrows look once I get them done (myself) after growing them out for a while. ๐Ÿคจ

9. Floating around in the ocean water, when the sun and the water are both warm. ๐ŸŒŠ

10. Meeting new interesting people, even if I never see them again. ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

11. When I look good in a selfie with minimal effort. ๐Ÿคณ

12. When my best friends understand the exact meaning of any of my facial expressions. ๐Ÿ˜

13. When a tarot reading confirms something I already kind of knew. ๐Ÿƒ

14. My toe nails, freshly polished. ๐Ÿ‘ฃ

15. When I complete a craft project smoothly! ๐Ÿ“

16. Creating a playlist full of songs that match one of my moods. ๐ŸŽผ

17. Good, cheesy, flavorful pizza. ๐Ÿ•

18. My bed, just made with freshly laundered sheets. ๐Ÿ›Œ

19. Sleeping with a fan on. โ„

20. The flickering of candlelight in a dark room. ๐Ÿ•ฏ

21. The scent of fresh cut flowers. ๐Ÿ’

22. Everything about autumn. The colors, the air, the foods, the festivities. ๐Ÿ‚

23. When my little one just wants to snuggle with me at the end of the day. ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ

24. Long weekends at home, relaxing! ๐Ÿ›‹

25. The butterfly feelings when talking to a crush. ๐Ÿฆ‹

26. An ice cold drink on a hot day! ๐Ÿฅค

27. Writing…anything! โœ

28. Finding a new series to watch, and being hooked on it from the start. ๐Ÿ“บ

29. When the exact outfit you want to wear fits perfectly! ๐Ÿ‘—

30. Freshly trimmed-down finger nails. ๐Ÿ’…

31. Perfect lighting to fit the mood. ๐Ÿ’ก

Like a beached whale…

…but not really.

The year is coming to a close. It’s been real interesting. I became a mother and had an introductory crash course on what life has really been like for my own mother all these years. Motherhood isn’t easy. You miss out on a lot of sleep and self-care. But it’s also very rewarding. The smiles, the cuddles, the coos, the giggles. The fact that when baby is cranky all he wants is mommy. ๐Ÿ˜‡

I have no regrets. I love my baby. Sometimes, I may feel like I can’t get as much done as I would like to. But it doesn’t matter. As long as I take care of the things I need to do in order to care for my little one. He’s the center of my world. And nothing matters more than his well-being, health and happiness. ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ

 

beach sky
New Smyrna Beach, Florida. October 2019

Untitled Update

I don’t have much to complain about right now. Even though I may not be in an “ideal” situation, I’m thoroughly enjoying the process of becoming a better me. And quite honestly, I feel like the Universe has been conspiring in my favor lately.

The way to be happy…is to focus on the things that make you happy.

It really is that simple.

Playing the Field

And then there was โ€œhim.โ€ Oh how many times I wish this werenโ€™t a thing, but there it is. Deeper than the undiscovered parts of the seas. This is the longest Iโ€™ve been this irrational when it comes to a man. Seriously. This space shuttle burst into flames before even launching. I wish he would just fucking decide what it is he fucking wants. Maybe then I can set myself free. I just feel like no matter what, I keep thinking back at all the stupid potential. Honestly, โ€œpotentialโ€ is such a stupid word to even use. What the fuck is potential? So he has the potential to be a great partner in a committed relationship? But is he a great partner right now? Nah. I seriously need an intervention. Sometimes I think the only thing that will ever set me free from his โ€œpotentialโ€ is for a charming man to come along, sweep me off my feet, throw me up in the air and catch me as I gently fall without even noticing how in love we are.

I know exactly why he keeps me around. So itโ€™s even dumber that I am still thinking about his โ€œpotential.โ€ He keeps me around because he knows I will always respond. I will always react. I will always accept. I will always understand. I think itโ€™s time I stop being so damn understanding. People make excuses for the way they mistreat me and I just understand. I should start taking things personally perhaps. But then again, when I make it known that I donโ€™t accept things, I am told I have overreacted.

So I guess he really is a narcissist. He twists things around so that he can do whatever the fuck he wants while maintaining that โ€œbig heart, good intentionsโ€ charm. Iโ€™m over it.

Not really.

But I wish I was.

I really wish I could just get over it. Iโ€™ve tried. I canโ€™t stop it. Itโ€™s so difficult. Practically impossible. How does one break the ties between two people who never gave each other a full chance? Everything is so mild. Everything besides the connection, that is. The connection itself–the energy, the love–itโ€™s so deep, strong, attractive, intense.

I just want to fast forward to a day when Iโ€™m happily committed to someone who is happily committed to me. Simple.

 

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Somewhere in Indiana, June 2017

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